Thursday, July 08, 2010


Hello friends!

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Let me share with you what happened today, then I beg you to not only pray for this young woman, but also to help. I don't know how to help her, I've never dealt with this situation before, so I need advice...wisdom...whatever it is you can offer me or her, I'll take it.

Tonight, I was visited by a friend who was in trouble. She came to my restuarant and poured her heart out. I listened and comforted her and just loved on her. I tried to be a good friend and to help her with the bad situation she was in.
While she was talking, Julie, a server at the Tavern, came upstairs to tell me that there was a young woman downstairs looking for a job. I have to tell you, I get about ten to fifteen people a week looking for a job. I think I have a stack of over 100 applications just from the summer. I don't need any new help for the summer, but I told Julie, to have her fill out an application and I'll keep it in my folder. Julie knew I was involved in a private conversation, but she came back upstairs and drew me aside. "Susan, I think you should talk to this girl. I gave her an application and she sat down and started to cry."
So, I excused myself from my conversation with my friend and I headed downstairs to see why this young girl would be crying. I sat down, and she introduced herself and told me she was in desperate need of a job. *tug* (that's my heartstrings being pulled.* She told me that she currently works at two jobs and also goes to school. She said she was supposed to get her schedule today from one of her jobs, but when she called, the manager told her she wasn't on the schedule. She said that she needed the money so badly, she didn't know what she was going to do. She lives with her boyfriend, who she just met at a bar four months ago, has a two year old daughter to take care of, and her boyfriend's unemployment ran out last week. Okay..I know...you are thinking ..yeah right!! What does this girl want?? It just sounds so dramatic....
Well..you just have to know me, although I have a good heart, and I like to be giving and to help..I'm not a pushover. I tend to NOT believe people and I am very defensive and never want to be taken advantage of. So I start asking this girl many questions. She answered them all. She gave me names and phone numbers of her employers. She showed me pics of her little girl. She showed me her school schedule. The whole time she was crying, and feeling so ashamed and embarrassed but for some reason (God) she just kept sharing and pouring her heart out.
I made her look me in the eye, and I said, "I'm going to help you" I don't need anyone to work...but somehow I am going to help you" I told her that God loved her, she was His little girl, and she said, "It doesn't feel like it" The poor little thing, my heart was breaking. She is in an abusive relationship, (her second one) but has no where else to go. She loves the guy she's with, but knows that he is not good. She said she'd get out if she could. Her dad is a drug addict and her mom is addicted to prescription meds and doesn't get along with her. She told me that she has no one to help her. She's stuck. She has a friend that watches her little girl, when she goes to school, and then she goes to work, so she's never with her daughter.
Ahhhhh, I could go on and on and retell you her story.
I ended up hugging her and comforting her and telling her I would help her somehow. I gave her some money and she kept refusing it, but I knew it would help for the next few days. I didn't care at that point, if I was being taken advantage of. I gave it to God and that is what God sees. He sees me heart. But I really think this girl needs it. She needs help, but I don't know how to help her. She needs a job. She needs a mentor. She needs someone to guide her and lead her and talk to her. She needs help! How? What? Where? Tell me....what to do. Teach me. Show me how to help her. Lord, show me what to do next. I'm a mother..I kept saying that to her. If it was my daughter in this situation, I'd want someone to come along and give her a helping hand. I'm just a mother wanting to help a daughter. Send me your advice, please. How can you help? Pray! What can you give or do? What can I do that will best help her? I just don't know what to do?????
Thank you so much!! I need your wisdom!
OH and by the way.. two days ago I asked God to use me!

Friday, January 15, 2010

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

I'm a writer.


I took this quiz on facebook. I think those quizzes are so silly. How can your character be summed up from a series of 10 to 15 questions? But I took one..and honestly..it was so accurate. When I read the results, my eyebrow shot up..how on earth did you get this from those questions? They weren't "Do you like to write?" kind of questions..
I dunno..maybe it's coincidental..but anyway..here is the quiz and the results.

Susan completed the quiz "Which Famous or Infamous Woman In History Are You?" with the result Emily Bronte.

You are the writer Emily Bronte. You seem to keep to yourself most of the time, and only have few close friends. Though you are beautiful, you dont find yourself attractive. Other people in your life, wether they are your friends or your family, always come before you, and you work hard to please others. You are very educated and intelligent and school was always extremely important to you. You care mostly for writing, reading, and other arts, and people tend to think of you as a loner, and don't take the time to get to know you very well. You have a dark, lonely side to you, and though you put on a happy face, you are often very sad. .

Saturday, August 08, 2009

The Wedding Dance!



Most of you..have probably seen this video! So far it's gotten over 17 million views! That is AMAZING! This video touched me so much, I just had to post it here to my blog and write about it. It inspired me : )

If you look at the phrase at the top of this page right above my picture, it says this: Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary!
I love to live a life that is anything but ordinary. I LOVE what this couple did. They changed the rules of a wedding. I've said this phrase soso many times, when talking about church or my restaurant. Why do we always have to do everything the same way? Why is a wedding always the same? How many weddings have you been to in your life? How many stick out in your mind..they are beautiful..oh a wedding is such a beautiful thing..but ..hmm let's be honest, if you've seen one, you've seen them all! It's a wedding. It's a funeral. It's a church. It's a restaurant.
Do you understand what I mean?
How many weddings do you remember as being extraordinary? Amazing? One you'll never forget? *BESIDES YOUR OWN!! : ) * And, if your wedding was like mine..mine wasn't really incredible. It was kind of ordinary.. I'm being honest. After 20 years of marriage..it was a nice wedding, but nothing amazing!
But the people at this wedding... they will remember it for the rest of their lives! And they will probably smile every single time they think about it. I bet you they will think about it often, for a long, long time. Jill and Kevin did something extraordinary. They colored outside of the lines..they thought outside of the box..they strayed from the mundane! They had fun! They celebrated! Did you listen to the song that was playing? "It's you and me, moving at the speed of light into eternity. Tonight is the night, you join me in the middle of ecstacy."
Oh I just loved it! That was INCREDIBLE!!! It made me cry. Because..BECAUSE..this is how life should be! This is how we should make our lives and other people's lives. AMAZING! I say it all of the time. It's how I want my restaurant to be. It's how I want my church to be. I want it to be different. I want it to be so darn full of love and joy and fun and laughter..That's what I want to give to my customers and to people..in my life. I want life to be BETTER..AMAZING.. INCREDIBLE! Why should it be dull? I've always felt that way about church....Oh it drove me crazy! It's why I tried to get a new church planted. I wanted one that was fun, and so outside of the box, but one that would make people CRAZY in LOVE with Jesus. I want a church that gives and gives to people in their own community. I want a church that is just like Jill and Kevin's wedding. One that is different, that makes living exciting, that makes loving Jesus fun and not a chore. I want my restaurant to be the same way. I'm telling you the truth...I could care less about making money. We have to make enough to support ourselves and our children, but I want to give meals away to people..I want to be able to say, "lunch is on me" I want to be able to give free sticky buns to people on their birthdays..I want to do anything I can to make someone feel good! Oh you can't even know the burning desire of my heart..it is like a fire..that consumes me. I want to change lives, I want people to know just how good life can be..Oh..I can barely stand it. I want it so bad. I want my restaurant to make people feel good, but it's so not enough for me. Those who know my soul..who know my passion...this is where I am now..making the Tavern successful and wonderful..but my true heart burns and desires, and it has for more than three years now, to build a church that is contemporary, non denominational..one that ROCKS! One that thinks outside of the box! One that is fun to go to! One that will make people want to clap their hands and dance and celebrate and laugh! Just like the wedding entrance did..to the wedding guests. One that is different then all the rest.
I know I'm not expressing myself right..my fingers won't type my words fast enough.
I wish you could read my mind and look into my heart and see what lies inside there. The picture that I see...I wish you could see.
Think about it! Why can't we have a church service like this? Why can't every Sunday, every time we gather together to celebrate life and Jesus, be fun, hand clapping, laughing, dancing..
I'm not talking just about the worship service. I want a church that is fun and exciting, and I also want a church that pours everything they have into their community. It's what I want to do with the Tavern, but my resources are so far less, than that of a church. It's only Joe and I bringing in money to give back to the community. A church..well that's a whole group of people. Imagine what we could give and do, with a whole group of people giving and doing together! We could be a community, very much like the group of people in this wedding party. We could make our community so much brighter, different, fun, loving, exciting, giving, helping, ...EXTRAORDINARY!
One more little piece of my heart..
My daughter asked me the other day, if I won the lottery what I would do.
She knew my answer but I said it anyway.

I would build a church that is AMAZING! I would make it's worship service be like a concert. People would sing to Jesus and want to clap and smile and laugh and feel the most incredible joy!
The kids building would be like a chuckee cheese area. When their parents ask them where they'd like to go for fun...I don't want them to say Chuckee Cheese. I want them to say CHURCH! I want it to be THAT good!
I want a youth center to be the place where teenagers want to hang out! I don't want my teenagers going to parties or anywhere else. I want them to have a Blast at church! I want to open a youth center every night of the week, with mentors.. a place where kids feel safe, and loved. A place where kids who are lacking families can come and talk to someone and not be put down..or critisized. I want them to be filled with love that comes from loving Jesus. not sex..or drugs..or alcohol.
Where do young people in their twenties and thirties go to meet other people around this area??? They have nowhere to go except a bar?? I want a place that gets filled with singles and young people that want to meet other people without having to sleep with each other or drink!! Do you know what I mean?? We're missing that in our society!! We're missing it!!!
I want the kind of church that people want to come, not just to do a duty..but because they LOVE it!
Oh...I have a picture in my mind, and I know it's possible to do. I just don't know how to do it.
Once it's built, I know beyond ANY ..ANY..shadow of a doubt that it would be successful and amazing! God put the picture in my mind and heart, and I've proved that when God gives me a vision, I can make it happen. I built the UNDERGROUND in my old church..I built up the Tavern....
But where my heart lies...is building a church for God! A church that would bring thousands and thousands of people to know Him. I want to increase His Kingdom with as many people as I can possibly bring there!
My fingers are tired...my heart is heavy...the passion will not die inside of me. It only gets stronger each day that I live!
I only wish I knew how to make it happen.

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Still in Love with Jesus!

Hey you! I'm glad you found me..if you were searching for me! I am now blogging on my professional site www.thetavernonthesquare.blogspot.com and because we are soooo crazy busy with our new restaurant, I don't have time to blog personally! BUT..if you googled me and came upon this website..HELLO! I'm still here..still crazy head over heels in love with Jesus....still wanting to make the world a better place...still passionately in love with my husband and my daughters! I love being a mom and a wife and a restaurant owner and a New Wilmington Resident..

Oh...God is so good! Jesus is my hero! Please, if you come across this blog post..just keep praying for me and for my family! Pray that God keeps us safe and healthy and that He keeps us close to Him! Pray that the world doesn't snatch my family away from HIM! Pray that Jesus is always number one in our lives!!!
It's late...and I'm going to bed... goodnight! Thanks again! Goodnight Jesus, my hero! I love you soooooooooo much. Thank you for EVERYTHING you give me and do for me and...wow..just thank you for creating me! Your girl, Susan!

Wednesday, March 04, 2009

ON haitus

pssst,
check out my restaurant blog. www.thetavernonthesquare.blogspot.com

I've been blogging there..for now. My life is filled with The Tavern.

Until I have more personal time.. check me out professionally.
Susan

Friday, January 09, 2009

I'm sorry!!

Hey friends!
I just want to apologize for not responding to your emails recently. I owe many emails! Please don't think I have forgotten about you. I do read your emails and I do think about you often and pray for you when I think of you! If you haven't gotten a response, or an email from me lately, please don't give up on me. I will write when I have more time! Please keep praying for Joe and the girls and I. Pray that we keep the Lord first, and not try to do this by our own will. Please pray that the Lord keeps providing for us and we will get through this tough part of pre-opening! Thanks you guys! I love you so much. More than you even realize! Friends are gifts from God! NO DOUBT! Sue

Tuesday, January 06, 2009

A glorious day!

I woke up early this morning and walked to Jimmy's restaurant on the corner in New Wilmington. I met three really wonderful women. We had breakfast together and talked business. I'm loving life.
This is short. I'm working on the menu. It needs to be done by tommorow.
Pray for me. It's important to get this done and done right. Pray for God's wisdom and guidance Thanks you friends! I love and value you! Susan

Sunday, January 04, 2009

One more day of Holiday left...


My girls go back to school tommorow. Vacation is over. They are feeling down in the dumps. I'm taking the day off today to take them out to eat and to the mall to exchange some Christmas gifts. It's a free day today. They've been so good. So understanding and patient with us. I am so proud of them.
Ally & Lauren's mom

Saturday, January 03, 2009

Psst,
Hey! How are you? What's going on? How's life? I am taking a few minutes out (I've been working on our menu) to shout out a praise. Thank you Father God, for my husband. He works from early in the morning to seriously..early in the morning. 18 hour days..getting this restaurant together. He is such a man of character. He is a hard worker. He is a good man. I am blessed.
Joe..thank you for helping to make this vision a reality. Thank you for your labor. You will see the fruits one day... God promises. No need to worry,., my partner in life,..no need to worry! Keeping the Faith, Susan

Friday, January 02, 2009

Want some inspiration today? Watch this video!



Jesus.. is amazing. When you have Jesus Christ in your heart... honestly..you don't even know, unless you know.. You can be like Nick..and have that kind of attitude!
WOW! WoW!

Table cloths, Computers and Coke!

Many meetings today for the Tavern.
Linens, computers, and coca-cola.
Working on the menu.
It's harder than cleaning that basement...
But it needs to get done.
Looking for lots of input, ideas and suggestions..
If you have any, send them our way.
It's so good.
SLH

Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Happy New Year!




May our Lord and Savior fill all of your days of 2009 with joy and peace and love. May you have a healthy and prosperous year. Let this be the year that you realize just how much Jesus loves you. Let your hearts be filled with His love and I pray that you pass that love on to others. Love makes the world go round, ya know? : )
Thank you for being a part of my life. Thank you for coming along in this journey of mine. I love you all. Susan L. Hougelman

Monday, December 29, 2008

I've missed you!


Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.
Arnold Schwarzenegger




Hello my friends and family!
I'm back : ) Did you miss me? I sure missed blogging! I have so much to tell you about this past month! I will begin by saying, Joe and I have been working 16-18 hour days at our new Restaurant, scrubbing and cleaning and washing and painting! We've been working very vigorously trying to get it ready for it's January opening! We took Christmas Eve and Christmas Day off to celebrate Christ's Birth with our family and right after that it was back to work!
I wake up each morning exhausted..my body aching, my hands rough and chapped, my back hurting..but with a huge smile on my face and incredible joy in my heart!
I am falling so deeply in love with this beautiful old building that my heart races to get downstairs and work inside of it. We are making it clean and beautiful for people! Oh friends..I can't wait for you to see it! The Tavern on the Square..there is no doubt in my mind that God has prepared me for this adventure. The road I've been on has led me here and this is just the beginning of this leg of the race!
It is early morning now and I must get up and prepare for the day. Today is a day filled with errands and mental work. My body will appreciate the rest and I will enjoy talking on the phone and running errands.
Do you know what I've missed most this month? SOCIALIZING! I have been a shut in. I haven't been able to communicate with my friends and family and bloggers! I haven't been outside enough. I MISS PEOPLE!!!!
It will all come soon enough though.. I realize that! Please know, if you are reading this that I love you dearly and I miss you. Please don't feel shut out of my world if you haven't heard from me..we truly have had to work this much in order to open. We have not had an income for the past month, and we have to open as soon as possible or we will run out of money!
See you soon! With Christ's amazing and neverending love,
Susan

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